a-ha’s from A New Earth Chapter 10

If you were part of our A New Earth tele-chat but weren’t able to finish the book. No worries. In the midst of shopping, doing, giving to others, give yourself some space (10 minute spurts will do) to watch or read Chapter 10.  It captures the essence of the book and all you need to do become “A New You.”

Here are a few of my favorite a-ha’s. I’d love to hear what resonated with you…

Each night, without knowing it, you return to the unmanifested Source of all life when you enter the stage of deep, dreamless sleep, and then reemerge again in the morning, replenished.

I know sleep is important, but putting it in this way gave it a depth I needed to hear. I might be able to skip the ice cream before bed now. Do I really want to give my body something that’s going to interrupt this magical process ? Wouldn’t it be great to wake up not just physically, but spiritually replenished ???

Each person’s life represents a world, a unique way in which the universe experiences itself…

This makes the responsibility of delivering our gifts and encouraging others to do the same, in their own way, even more important.

The closer we get to the end of our present evolutionary stage, the more dysfunctional the ego becomes… in the same way that a caterpillar becomes dysfunctional just before it transforms into a butterfly.”

Great. It’s going to get worse before it gets better. I could let that bum me out, or I can watch for it when it happens and know that, it is going to get better. My ego is going to do all it can to stay stuck. Not because I don’t deserve peace or happiness, but because that’s just how it is structured. Its job is to keep me separate from my purpose. It’s my choice to evolve. All I have to do is stay aware, accept and embrace the process.

 If you’re not in a state of  Acceptance, Enjoyment or Enthusiasm about what you’re doing, stop doing it.

What a comforting gauge for change! If we apply what we’ve learned about not resisting, blaming or resenting situations we’re not “happy” about, answers will come. We will know how to accept it, how to start enjoying it, or how to change it.

Enjoyment will replace wanting as the motivating power behind people’s actions…

Wouldn’t that be awesome?? To strive for what we enjoy instead of what we think we should achieve? And, just when you might be thinking that Enjoyment is about blowing off responsibility, ponder this:

“If you can neither enjoy or bring acceptance to what you do – stop. Otherwise, you are not taking responsibility for the only thing you can really take responsibility for, which also happens to be the one thing that matters; your state of consciousness. And if you are not taking responsibility for your state of consciousness, you are not taking responsibility for your life.”

I can’t think of a better a-ha to end our A New You with A New Earth tele-chat experience. For more encouragement and reminders about how to take responsibility … check out the chapter-by-chapter a-ha’s.

Thank you for sharing your A New Earth experience with me. I am excited to practice all we’ve learned and can’t wait to watch the year unfold.

Take especially good care of yourself,

Denese

a-ha’s from A New Earth Chapter 9

Sometimes I shake my head and wonder, “What in the world…”

Like when I was wondering what to make for dinner and my neighbor knocks on the door with a veggie lasagna, fresh from the oven. What in the world.

 

Or, when a friend from high school, re-introduced through Facebook, introduces me to someone who is so aligned with my path, with an opportunity to do what I’ve always wanted to do. What in the world. (more on that later)

This is the type of thing that happens when you practice presence and all of the things Eckhart and Oprah have been teaching us throughout our A New You with A New Earth experience.

It’s also the key to finding Your Life’s Purpose. Here are a few more a-ha’s from Chapter 9:

Finding and living in alignment with the inner purpose is the foundation for fulfilling your outer purpose.

All of us have the same inner purpose – to align life with the present. But, everyone has a different outer purpose, and it changes over time.

When you realize this, there’s no worry about finding the perfect job, relationship or situation. All you have to do is accept what is in your life now. Learn from it. Love it. Or take action to leave it.

 When you can live with uncertainty, with having faith in this process, opportunities open.

This is the hardest part. Letting go of the struggle to get out of an unsatisfying situation. When you practice presence, especially acceptance, life delivers opportunity, ideas, inspiration to show you the way. Life flows.

You determine what kind of future you’ll have, because whatever energy you put into the now, creates your future.

There is only now. If you are always frustrated, annoyed by doing what you have to do to achieve your “future purpose,” you will always be frustrated and annoyed… along with everyone around you. Life can not help you when you’re in this state, because you are consumed by thought, totally unaware, closed off. You’re not even capable of noticing life’s gentle nudges.

 

Like, being asked to contribute to a program that will change people’s lives… essentially helping them Age-less.

At the root of all this was Facebook (which, I avoided for awhile, letting others convince me it was silly), writing (which I didn’t do for a long time, wondering who would read what I write) and going to Nutrition School to become a health counselor (I mean, is that even a real career…??) But, by going with them anyway, because I was interested and genuinely happy doing them…without any attachment to an outcome … (that’s the big one!) … life delivered opportunity. a gentle nudge. a next step.

Keep an eye on Ageless. We’re up to something big! Like us on Facebook.

a-ha's from A New Earth chapter 8 tele-chat

 

peace isn’t about passivity or waiting on a woo-woo moment…
it’s not (necessarily) living from a mountain top or avoiding responsibilities…
it’s not living a life “of service” when all you want to be is a rock star…

peace is about acceptance and action…
it’s about finding ways to bring more space into your mind, body, day…

because with space, there’s breathing room…
there’s time to take a step back before reacting, to ponder possibility, to consider compassion…
with space you’re a better listener, both inward and outward…

creating space takes practice…
like taking time for one mindful breath when you’re agitated,
or noticing the pause between an inhale and exhale, or the gaps between A considerable difference exists between a Twitter best file recovery stream and telemetry best file recovery coming from a weather satellite. thoughts and to-do’s…

when you give yourself more space, everything flows…
stars seem to align, you feel supported, your true gifts emerge…
the right people appear, the right job comes along, with the right amount of money, for you in this moment…

you’re no longer stressed about money because you’re no longer living beyond your means…
you don’t worry about next steps because you have faith in the small steps, the ones that are possible, in front of you today…

when you live from spaciousness, you have room for non-judgment, non-reactiveness, non-attachment…

you’re able to recognize our same-ness while encouraging our unique-ness…
you know that whether you’re a doctor or a rock star, as long as you’re living in line with your soul, you will inspire others to do the same…
you will connect, love, experience life with more depth and abundance than you could ever imagine…

 

Join us for our Chapter 9 chat, Tuesday at 8 pm Arizona, 7 pm PST, 10 pm EST.

a-ha’s from A New Earth chapter 7 tele-chat

 

Eckhart kicks off Chapter 7, “Finding Who You Truly Are” with this …

 “Knowing yourself deeply has nothing to do with whatever ideas are floating around in your mind. Knowing yourself is to be rooted in Being, instead of lost in your mind.”

The a-ha for me was when he used a cross as a way to portray this. (It also made me think of the wall of crosses my friend has in her home.)

Eckhart says most of us live life along the horizontal – in the past, the future, focused on point a and point b. However, our true power comes when we incorporate a vertical dimension along that horizontal line.

When we firmly root ourselves in being, or acceptance, a depth occurs that’s missing in so many lives. Ego dissolves at the intersection of the horizontal and vertical. That’s where presence lives and we know that’s where the magic happens.

That’s also where you’ll find who you truly are. The truth is, no one can tell you who you are. It’s more of an essence to be experienced, not able to be explained.

We cultivate this essence in life’s little things, during traffic and sick days with your daughter.

It takes practice to cultivate this experience. Try it with life’s little things. You’re worth the effort.

 

 

 

 

a-ha’s from A New Earth chapter 6 tele-chat

 

In Chapter 6, Eckhart says we can lessen the pain-body’s hold on us through “vigilant observation.”

photo via Pinterest

Or, turn on your power-eyes, as my niece’s kindergarten teacher used to say when the kids couldn’t find something.

Awareness is kryptonite to ego and the pain-body. Developing your ability to recognize it in action is going to make life a whole lot easier.

If you’re not sure what to look for, workshop participants are noticing these physical sensations when their pain-body is triggered:

“a pit in my stomach…

tension in my shoulders…

tightness in my chest…

a lump in my throat….”

Next time that physical sensation or urge to create drama comes over you, try to breathe into it, give yourself some space to realize that what this really is, is a chance to feel a deeply embedded emotion that wasn’t acknowledged or experienced when it should have been.

Rather than trying to avoid it by medicating, over-eating, over-working, or denying it… know that this feeling, or unhappy story, has nothing to do with who you really are….

Use these opportunities as triggers to get present. Then notice what happens when you do…

“When I’m going, going, going, it’s harder to be present.”

“The more my mind races, the more tired I feel.”

“The slower I go, the more present I am, the more energy I have.”

“I’ve always resisted slowing down because I worry about what I’ll miss. But, the less commitments I make, the more I realize I’m not missing out on anything.”

“When I was compassionate and deeply listened, the other person changed how they felt or how they were acting.”

“When I felt my husband bait me into an argument, I slowed down, got present and didn’t react. I could tell he wondered why I wasn’t participating. I wasn’t feeling righteous, just disinterest in the pattern we’d created. The argument didn’t grow into the animal it usually does. It diminished much quicker than if we would have had the argument.”

Be vigilant about observing, without judgment what’s going on inside you.

Ask yourself regularly, especially when you’re not agitated, “What am I feeling? What am I thinking?”

Be vigilant about removing the obstacles preventing you from living your best life.

Chapter 7 tele-chat starts Tuesday, 10/30 at 8:00 pm PST. It’s going to be a good one, “Finding Who You Truly Are… ”   Even if you haven’t read the chapter, sign up here for the call-in info and join us!

a-ha’s from A New Earth chapter 5 tele-chat

Everyone has a phrase.

One that captures all our mental and emotional baggage that’s accumulated over the years, maybe even passed on from generation to generation.  This accumulation of old emotional pain,  or “the pain-body” as Eckhart calls it, is always there, lying dormant, waiting to be provoked.

How do you know what your phrase is? 

It’s the button we don’t want pushed.
It’s the one those closest to us know exactly how to push.
It’s the one that causes a reaction that’s very “unlike” us…
We become withdrawn, defensive, angry, sad, hopeless…

Do any of these resonate with you?

People can’t be trusted…
I don’t deserve abundance…
I don’t deserve love…
Life is supposed to be hard…
Life always lets you down…

It’s not as important to know what your phrase is, as it is to recognize when it’s awakened. 

Like anything ego-driven, it searches for ways to feed.  Pain-bodies are clever and conniving,  operating like a wild animal with survival on its mind. They feed on past stories, deeply embedded beliefs, that go way back… which is why they thrive in family settings… where there’s one big room full of pain-bodies to feed upon, slyly, without our even being aware of it.

If we don’t recognize it, what happens? 

The longer these pain-bodies live, the more miserable our life remains, keeping us totally unaware, disconnected, separate from the peace within us – our truest, best self.

Practicing presence is the only way to keep the pain-body dormant.

If this doesn’t encourage you to give presence a try, here’s another a-ha that might:

While our body is incredibly intelligent, it can not tell the difference between an actual situation and a thought.

If you’re walking around making mental movies about what she said, what he did, what you would say next time and how wrong they are… which describes the normal state of mind for most of us …energetically, your body is in a constant state of panic.

Most of us live in fight or flight mode…

where all of our systems are compromised affecting immunity, circulation, digestion, hormones, our ability to manage stress…

So, how do we tame the wild animal within? 

I thought this chapter called for some extra enlightened guidance.  So, I scrolled through my saved episodes of Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday and got some major a-ha’s from the master of mindfulness, Thich Naht Han, Zen Buddhist monk (the one Martin Luther King nominated for a Nobel Peace Prize.)

Check out his recommendations in “practicing presence. with Thich Naht Han.”

 

photo via Northern Sun (it’s a t-shirt!)

a-ha’s from A New Earth Chapter 4 tele-chat

Chapter 4 suggests that most of us go through life playing roles and, just like roles played out on the big screen, they have nothing to do with the real-ness of the one playing them. That sounds like a lot of work, so why in the world would we do that?

photo/poster via Karen at notsalmon. love her!

Eckhart says we do this because of one unconscious assumption, one underlying thought that,

 I am not enough.

We’ve learned that our ego thrives on separation… feeling inferior/superior, making right/wrong…its rigid structure is designed to keep us believing we’re never enough.

So, we make up stories around whatever function we’re facing – as an adult, a parent, a spouse, an employee… and try to live out our version, or our family’s version, or our society’s version of whatever we think that should be.

No wonder we’re exhausted!

The problem is that when we completely identify with a role, we confuse a pattern of behavior with who we are – and we think actors are strange when they do this.

Eckhart congratulates this confusion…when people start wondering, “If I’m not that, then who am I?”

“If you can be absolutely comfortable with not knowing who you are, then what’s left is who you are – the Being behind the human – a field of pure potentiality, rather than something that is already defined.”

Now thats a big a-ha!

Check out this article, Get Unstuck, Unleash Your Potential” on the magic that can happen when we accept what we don’t know, stop acting out the life we think we should be living and let our real-ness shine through. And, join us for Chapter 5’s tele-chat on Tuesday, 10/16…

 

a-ha's from A New Earth Chapter 3 tele-chat

Chapter 2 showed us that while “what” our ego obsesses about is unique to each one of us – it operates the same.  It thrives on separation, complaining, resentments, being superior, inferior, right or wrong. Understanding this same-ness shifts perspective, causing healthier, more neutral mindset and reactions.

Here are a few a-ha”s from our chat about Chapter 3:

I didn’t think I complained very much, but I”m realizing that even if I’m not saying it out loud, or projecting it at others, there’s a lot of complaining going on in my head, especially about myself.

I’m watching people in a different way now, with less judgment, less assumptions. My reactions are slower, more thoughtful…

I”m becoming more compassionate when someone hurts my feelings. I don”t have to condone what they”re doing… having a deeper understanding of Other hair test for drugs used in addiction treatment, like naltrexone and acamprosate, are specifically designed to reduce cravings and prevent relapse rather than relieving withdrawal symptoms. where they”re coming from helps me not take it as personal or let it affect my day.

 

When it comes to my children, worry and fixing are innate. But, I”m starting to see that the act of worry doesn’t fix anything. As teenagers surrounded by teenage egos, they need me to be grounded, rested, able to listen. I online casino australia can”t do that when I”m exhausted and depleted from no sleep and nervous eating.

The idea of “what you resist, persists” makes more sense to me now. The ego makes a battle out of everything. It”s what makes us eat foods we “know” are bad for us.  If you do as Eckhart suggests and mindfully, slowly, enjoy the chips, there”s no resistance for the ego to stand upon and chances are, you won”t eat as much …

 

Sign in here to join us for Chapter 4 and end the year well on your way to A New You!

a-ha's from A New Earth chapter 2 tele-chat

This week”s tele-chat was all about ego… it”s content, structure, what makes it make us crazy.  Here are a few of the a-ha”s:

 

I”m seeing that presence and stillness aren”t about peace and butterflies. It”s a more neutral place of acceptance and awareness … and that seems easier than trying to be “happy” all the time.

In focusing more on what I”m saying to myself and what feelings accompany those thoughts, I”ve been able to stand back and watch it roll by. It has lightened my mood along with my energy….”

People live like the present is an enemy… constantly waiting for the next thing, or to get out of whatever online pokies situation they’re in…traffic, lines, jobs, relationships. Whenever you find yourself waiting, try “being” with it instead.

I would love to go back in time and help my kids not be so quick to walk by beauty without even recognizing it, as we all grow to do. I don’t think I’d tell them “this is ‘called’ a tree, as Eckhart suggests – that might get some strange looks. Instead, I might ask them what they like about the tree, or have them touch the tree, just to encourage a depth beyond labels or names.

from pg 45 – “How do you let go of attachment with things? Don’t even try. It’s impossible. Attachment to things drops away by itself when you no longer seek to find yourself in them. In the meantime, just be aware of your attachment to things.”

 

Check out Chapter 1 a-ha”s and End the Year a New You by signing up here for our free chat

a-ha’s from A New Earth Chapter 1 tele-chat

I asked “A New You with A New Earth” tele-chat-ters to share an a-ha from Chapter 1 during this week’s call.  I was touched by their genuine desire to become more present… and toasted them with a snapshot of skinny margaritas from Dr. Weil’s True Food Kitchen.

 

(I hope you’ll join Chapter 2’s chat on Tuesday, 9/25. If you’re intrigued, but can’t make it, sign up anyway for the call-in info and links to previous call recordings. You’re welcome to jump in for any chapter.)

Here are a few of those a-ha’s:

The idea of practicing acceptance vs trying to figure out why something is happening is comforting to me…”

I realized that no matter who you are, what situation you’re in, you’re always going to have to ground yourself so you can grow…”

The more you make your thoughts or beliefs into your identity, the more cut off you are from the spiritual dimension within yourself… This resonates with me as a mother, trying to figure out what role religion will play in our family.”

Before I had my son, my workaholic tendencies were always future focused. Pregnancy forces you to slow down. Having the child made me want to slow down. I see how present he is and I’ve been trying to be more present for him. This book confirms I’m on the right path.”

You do not become good by trying to be good, but by letting the goodness within you emerge… from pg 13 reminded me of Michelle Obama saying, ‘Being President doesn’t change who you are, it reveals who you are.’ This theme reminds me that trying to be good is more external. Allowing goodness to emerge taps into an internal quality. Our actions reveal who we are.”

I started the book as part of a weight loss program in 2010. Even though I didn’t finish it, I caught a glimpse of what it was like to live more in the present. I felt in touch with everything around me in a whole new way. Over time though, that sensation left me, like a tire with a slow leak you’re not aware of. I’m excited about this workshop because I want that back.”

Growth is a blessing, but it’s also a process.

It’s helpful to have a space where you can share your a-ha’s and feel supported. We’re all in this together. I hope this workshop can be that space for you.

 

p.s. Part of the process is “practicing” presence… here’s a suggestion or two.

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